What’s Really Killing Marriage Today? The Battle You Can’t See But Must Confront

We’re living in a generation where marriage is under attack like never before. Not by politics. Not by economics. Not even by gender debates. Those are just symptoms. The real danger is deeper, quieter, and far more spiritual than most couples realize.

If you’ve been paying attention, you already know something feels off. The desire for marriage is dropping. Homes are breaking at alarming rates. Identity is shifting. Families are unraveling. And the enemy is celebrating while culture points fingers in every direction except the right one.

Some blame irresponsible men. Others say it’s modern women walking away from marriage and motherhood. But the truth is far more sobering. The greatest threat to marriage today isn’t men. It isn’t women. It’s what is shaping them both.

The Culture That’s Discipling Your Home

We came across a study from the Institute for Family Studies, and the numbers tell a sobering story. Just two decades ago, over 80 percent of high school senior girls expected to marry someday. Today, that number has plunged to around 60 percent. Meanwhile, young men still overwhelmingly expect to marry.

Something is shifting in the hearts of young women. And it’s not random.

Technology. Social media. Dating apps. Influencers. Entertainment. The constant pressure of comparison. The endless temptation of self before sacrifice. This digital world has become the loudest voice in the lives of our sons and daughters.

And here’s the part that should shake us awake.
Screens are discipling this generation more than Scripture is.

When young women are told every day that freedom means independence, happiness means avoiding responsibility, and fulfillment means choosing self over family, their desires will drift. And when young men are discipled by the same culture of passivity, pleasure, and perpetual adolescence, their character weakens.

The enemy loves fatherlessness. He loves confusion. He loves broken homes. And he’s using a glowing screen to achieve it.

This isn’t just a cultural trend.
This is spiritual warfare.

The Lies Our Children Are Believing

The digital world has mastered the art of deception.

It preaches that commitment steals your freedom.
That sacrifice steals your joy.
That children are burdens, not blessings.
That independence is the only path to success.

And the heartbreaking truth is that many who chase this “freedom” report more anxiety, more loneliness, and less fulfillment than married mothers who embrace God’s design.

Once again, the culture promises freedom but delivers chains.

The Real Fight Isn’t Between Men and Women

Let’s be clear. This isn’t about attacking men or women. It’s about exposing the spiritual force shaping both.

Men need to grow in responsibility, spiritual maturity, and purpose.
Women need to see through the cultural fog that devalues covenant, motherhood, and family.

But the true enemy isn’t male or female.
It’s the culture discipling both away from God.

If couples don’t recognize this, they’ll spend their lives blaming each other instead of confronting the real spiritual attack threatening their homes.

God’s Blueprint Still Works in 2025

Here’s the hope. God’s design for marriage has not changed. It has not weakened. It has not lost power.

Marriage still works when we do it God’s way.
Covenant still wins when Christ is at the center.
And families still thrive when men and women embrace the calling God placed over them.

Scripture hasn’t expired.
Its authority hasn’t faded.
Its wisdom hasn’t aged.

Romans 12:2 tells us plainly:
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

If we want strong marriages in a weak culture, the Word must become our foundation again.

Four Ways to Fight Back Today

If you want to guard your marriage from the silent war raging around you, start here:

1. Watch what’s shaping you.
   If your phone influences you more than the Holy Spirit, your desires will shift every time.

2. Build covenant character.
   Don’t look for the perfect spouse. Become the spouse who honors covenant.

3. Reject cultural lies.
   Culture glorifies self-fulfillment. Jesus calls us to self-sacrificial love. Only one leads to life.

4. Protect your home from digital influence.
   Your phone is a battleground. Be intentional. Be vigilant. Be disciplined.

Marriage Isn’t Dying.
Culture Is.

And the darker it gets, the brighter covenant love will shine.

God is raising up couples who refuse to bow to culture. Couples who fight for their marriage instead of with each other. Couples who build their homes on Scripture while the world drifts further away from truth.

This is the heartbeat of Covenant Army Marriage.
To equip couples like you to stand firm, live counterculturally, and guard the sacred ground God has entrusted to you.

So ask yourself today:
Are we taking ground back from the enemy?
Or are we surrendering what God called us to protect?

It’s time to wake up.
It’s time to fight with truth.
And it’s time to build marriages that outshine the darkness of this culture.

Stay vigilant. Stay united.
And fight like a covenant warrior.